Monthly Archives: February 2008

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Thursday evenings from around 11:15pm I’ll be joining Red FM’s Victory Barry for Sexually Speaking to answer any sex questions you may have to the best of my ability.

Valentine’s Day and Sex

I don’t like it – Valentine’s Day that is. The enforced romance, the cards, the stupidly expensive roses, the romantic competition – it just ain’t sexy. Bah humbug. But anyway, here’s some VD news.

Sex vs Chocolate
Asked what they’d like for Valentine’s Day, 85% of Canadian guys said that they would prefer sex to chocolate but 31% of women said that they would take the chocolate instead.

Hmmm… that might be because women who eat chocolate regularly have better sex lives, at least that’s according to Italian researchers. If you deprive yourself of this sugary snack for most of the year, no wonder it becomes so important on the days when it’s “allowed.”

As a compromise, I suggest the Chocolate and Strawberry Lovers Body Pen Set. Cover yourself in rude chocolate words and get her to lick it off. Easy! And cheap too! Just £3.95 from Amazon UK.pens

Porn for VD
Apparently porn is high on the wish list of men this VD. If your mate is into SM and bondage then try Silken Sleeves. Maria Beatty’s seductive film features bondage and SM play between two gorgeous women and picked up a gong at last year’s Erotic Awards.

Available to buy as pay per minute, streaming and download from Bleu Productions.

Forbidden Love: Police Target Thai Teens
Thai police plan to crack down on motels, shopping centres and parks today to catch teen lovers celebrating Valentine’s Day. Despite Thailand’s reputation for sex tourism the legal age of consent is 18. Authorities were alarmed by a poll that suggested that 27% of Thailand’s teens intend to have sex to celebrate Valentine’s Day.

Oxytocin: The Best Valentine’s Day Gift
Cards? Chocolate? Dinner? Fuggetaboutit! Oxytocin is yer only man. Considering the health benefits, sex is the perfect Valentine’s Day gift. Studies show that oxytocin helps people deal with stress. And stress, you know, is a silent killer. So if you really love the man or woman in your life, then a good long shag session is the best thing to give.

Secret Toys

When I first walked into a sex shop, at an impressionable young age, I was terrified by at least half the toys on sale. All the vibrators were that sickly shade of orangey brown that’s supposed to pass for flesh; the packages all featured 80’s soft-core porn stars with big permed hair and frosted lipstick; and more than a few of them were huge – one was the shape and size of a pineapple!

I left with my wallet intact.

These days, toys have got a lot more woman-friendly and some of them are so positively discreet that you’d hardly know they were sex toys at all.

Here are my favourites. Sometimes it pays to be discreet…

I Rub My Duckie
One of the original discreet toys and a former winner of best sex toy at the Erotic Awards, the Duckie looks like an innocent bath time toy, but it actually a pretty damn good waterproof massaging vibrator. The classic is my favourite – I am a woman of simple tastes – but the Duckie also comes in Pirate, Bondage, Devil and Paris styles.

Available from Love Honey for £12.89 or Sex Pot for €29.99.


I Rub My Penguin

Even cuter though is the Penguin. It’s a waterproof multi-speed massager, and comes with a little ice shelf that can be wall-mounted in the shower.

Available from Love Honey for £24.99.

Screaming O Screaming Octopus Clitoral Vibrator

Kinda weird looking… but not bad at all for the price. Despite the Screaming O Screaming promised in the name, the vibes aren’t particularly strong so this is a good bet for those who are a little nervous about using a large or rabbit vibrator or don’t want to scare the man in their lives. After all, what man could be jealous of an octopus?

Available from Love Honey for £9.99.

Durex Play Little Gem

Ok, this one doesn’t look like a toy, but it’s so small and discreet, you’ll have no problem hiding it. This little vibe is designed for clitoral stimulation and very good it is too! Try using this on a bloke while giving him a blowjob.

Available on sale for €15 (normally €65!) from Durex

Hippo Vibrator
Another bath time toy. The Hippo is a one-speed massager that’s more sensual than sexual, but still, he’s kinda cute…

Available from Sex Pot for €29.99.

Tingle Tip Electric Toothbrush Clitoral Stimulator

Not bad at all for such a small toy. The Tingle Tip fits onto an Oral B electric toothbrush (remove the brush first!).

Available from Love Honey for £9.99.

Do married people have better sex? Opinions please!

I keep reading article after article that married people have better sex lives than singles. Apparently the reasons why married people (or those in long-term relationships) have better sex lives is because the have sex more frequently, find it easier to tell their partners what they want and trust each other enough to experiment.

While I imagine this is probably true for older people, I wonder if the same holds for people in their twenties and thirties. After all, there comes a time in your life when meeting people in nightclubs and pubs ain’t as easy as it used to be.

Anyway, I’d like to hear from anyone who has been with his or her partner more than five years but is still attractive enough to have options. Is it true? Or do wedding planners and Christian organisations sneakily sponsor these articles?