I have a similar experience…
My first apartment was in a dodgy part of town. The was a large escort agency around the corner and the city’s first strip club were just up the road. The streetwalkers were a few blocks down and the rent boys had a patch just beyond the shopping centre.

The sex workers themselves were friendly and there was never any hassle with them. When the director of the agency stopped me on the street and said he thought I’d be “perfect” for a job, I didn’t know whether to be insulted or pleased. I was eighteen and very innocent at the time (hard to believe but true…).

However, the johns were a constant source of annoyance. They seemed to think every woman in the area was involved in the sex trade. I got followed on a number of occasions by drunk men offering me money; shouted at; and generally verbally abused. I hate to think how they must have behaved with the women whose time they had ‘bought’ if they were that awful to me.

Recently, an Irish escort service has added a ‘dangerous customers’ section to its website. Read about that here: Prostitution website to identify dangerous punters

I wonder how much of our moral condemnation of sex work gives some people the belief that dehumanising these men and women is their right? I’m not saying that selling sex is a good idea - sex between freely consenting adults is what I promote - but surely we should be doing more to protect those marginalised by society and at risk from danger and abuse every day?

According to the researchers, “Men are more concerned about how their overall body size compares to the perceived male ideal than they are about how their size might impact on their sexual relations.”

The study, which investigated the link between men’s penis size, body image and mental health, found that men who indicated a larger-than-average penis size had higher self esteem, better general health functioning and higher overall body satisfaction than those reporting an average or below-average sized penis. The study also revealed that men who were happy with the size of their penis were less likely to engage in online dating. Interesting…

Woman were also asked what would be the name of a man that would most likely try to got for it on the first date. The answer: Dave (which is kinda funny to me as my brother is named David and girls love him… but he’s spoken for.)

The rest of the top 10 Promiscuous Names are: Stacy, Kelly, Chelsea, Tanya, Debbie, Becky, Vicky, Lisa and Michelle.

For the men, they are: Lee, Steve, Darren, Andy, Gary, Danny, Jason, Kevin and Callum.

Curl your tongue up against the outside of your upper lip. Keep the exposed backside of your tongue against her clitoris. Although you are not be doing anything with your tongue, the soft, wet sensation hasn’t been suddenly removed, disrupting the sensation of oral sex. You can press down on the clitoris with the back of your tongue creating pleasurable pressure or use your fingers to continue stimulating her.

For years I was a little bit embarrassed about buying them myself, delegating it to whomever I was sleeping with, as a “man’s job” but on the occasions I did, I felt the need to buy all sorts of other things in the chemist, such as lipstick and hair pins, so that they wouldn’t think I’d stopped in just to get condoms. Silly I know…

Anyone have any similar tales?

Condom Sense
Sex on the beach can be tricky when using a condom. If you suspect sand has blown onto the condom, stop and use a new one. Sand will tear tiny holes in the condom and possibly cause tiny tears on the genitals as well – ideal conditions to spread STIs. Always carry a few condoms. Even if you don’t, your friends may need them.

Condoms cannot be used in the sea or pool. Yep, sex here is a nice idea, but condoms are not guaranteed to work under these conditions. Durex has stated that there is a strong possibility that pool chemicals such as chlorine will damage their products. If you are submerged, water will wash away a woman’s natural lubricants and the condom’s lubricants as well. On a another note, improperly maintained pools and Jacuzzis are a breeding ground for bacteria, which can cause urinary tract infections among other nasty diseases.

The Pill
If you get sick or have diarrhoea from the food, your contraceptive pill’s effectiveness will be reduced. Drug awareness activists believe that some illegal substances may affect the efficacy of your pill so use condoms even if you are in a monogamous relationship.

Staying Safe
The Greek island of Kos and Mallia in Crete are especially reputed to have a culture of binge drinking and sexual attacks, so much so that the British consul in Crete is due to meet with tour operators and local officials to try and get the situation under control.

Even if your resort doesn’t have a bad rep, girls should still look after one another. Going home with a stranger and his drunken mates is very unwise. If you meet someone you like, take him back to your place or arrange to meet the next day when you are sober. Sort out a system with your friends beforehand if one or more of you meets someone.

Binge drinking is not only unhealthy, it’s pretty stupid too. Have a good time, but there’s no need to be puking your guts out on the beach. Avoid the really cheap punch and cocktails as these are often laced with industrial alcohol. Never leave your drinks unattended.

If one of your friends gets a little too merry, take her home or divvy up looking after her until she sobers up. This way she’s looked after and no one person’s night is ruined playing babysitter. Do not leave a drunken friend propped in a corner where she’ll be a target for a predator.