Category Archives: porn for women

Smaller Balls, Better Dad

VOICE ACTIVATED SEX TOYS
Sex toy company Nalone has released a range of nine sex toys that respond to the user’s moans – the louder and faster you are, the faster the toy vibrates keeping time with your responses. Whisper and the toy responds slightly, while loud noises or music will produce strong vibrations. The toys use touch technology and electro magnetic pulses to allow users to customise their vibrating patterns. Clever!

 

SMALL BALLS, BETTER DAD

I’m not sure how anyone is going to feel about this, but Emory University in Atlanta, Georgia has released a study that found that men with small testicles make better fathers and are more involved in their children’s upbringing. The research team used MRI scans to measure the volume of the testicles of fifty-five fathers and the men – and the mothers of their children answered questions to determine how hands-on they are as dads. The blokes with smaller testicles got the best parenting scores and were seen as the most nurturing. Fifty-five men is not exactly a huge sample group, and other academics have described the result as “very surprising.” The Emory University researchers did note that being involved with your children is largely a matter of choice, however.

 

SEX LESSONS FOR CHINESE WOMEN

Be glad you have access to hundreds of sex advice books if you need them: women in China are apparently so starved for sexual information that they are willing to pay hundreds of dollars to learn how to have sex. A number of sex coaches are said to be tapping the Chinese market and reports say that the demand for information is high. Many young people leave school without even cursory sexual education, and conservative social mores means people are reluctant to talk about sex publicly. Studies seem to confirm this: in 2010, a report from Peking University claimed that half of sexually active unmarried people in China have unprotected sex; another study found that only 9 percent of Chinese know how to put a condom on properly. Yikes!

 

SEXTON’S MISCELLANY – PORN FOR WOMEN

Dusk TV, an adult cable station, held its first “Porna Awards” this Saturday – porna being their word for porn aimed at female viewers. A panel of than more 1,700 women watched and rated porn films and these seven were nominated:

Your Orgasm Inside Me – Dane Jones

Cabaret Desire – Erika Lust

The Kiss – Kendo

Aphrodite Superstar – Candida Royalle

A Taste Of Joy – Petra Joy

Don Juan’s Therapist – Nica Noelle

Skin. Like. Sun. – Jennifer Lyon Bell

Petra Joy’s A Taste Of Joy won the overall award. Joy uses non-professionals, often couples, in her work and makes women’s pleasure central to the storyline.

Womens Top Five Sexual Fantasies

CALIFORNIA TO OUTLAW REVENGE PORN

The Californian state assembly is considering making it illegal to post “revenge porn”. If passed, the law will make it a crime to post a video or photo of someone who is partially or fully undressed without their permission. A law already exists to protect those who were secretly filmed and the new law would apply to images where the subject had originally given consent to being photographed or filmed. Revenge porn has become increasingly prevalent in the last few years, as more and more people share naked images with partners – and it is possible to save or recover images that are supposed to self-destruct using apps like Snapchat.

 

SWISS SEX CHALETS

This may not be the most architecturally exciting update of the classic Swiss chalet, but authorities in Zurich have unveiled drive-in sex chalets to improve security for sex workers and their clients. The chalets are located on a former industrial estate (sexy!) and are equipped with panic alarms and reminders to practise safe sex. The scheme has the support of residents and similar initiatives have been launched in Germany. Next stop, Limerick!

 

JOE FRANCIS JAILED

Girls Gone Wild creator Joe Francis has been sentenced to 270 days in jail and three years’ probation for assaulting a woman in his Los Angeles home in 2011. Francis was found guilty of choking his victim and repeatedly slamming her head to the ground. Francis has also been ordered to complete an anger management course and attend therapy. Francis is maintaining his innocence and will remain free until the outcome of his appeal. After receiving his sentence Francis complained to the press that the members of the jury were “retarded” and said that, “they should all be lined up and shot.” He later apologized for these remarks.

 

SEXTON’S MISCELLANY CHRISTIAN SWINGERS

You love the Lord and your partner – but, hell, the sexual boredom has set in. No bother – log on to ChristianSwingers.com and get your freak on with other God-fearing horny people or as the site puts it “devout Christian couples who still want to have an active love life and share it with another, in good faith!” I thought this site was an elaborate hoax, but it seems to be genuine – my mind is officially blown.

 

WOMEN’S TOP FIVE  SEXUAL FANTASIES

What are women’s favourite sexual fantasies? Emily Dubberley investigated our contemporary fantasies and her book Garden of Desires explores them. Here is the top five:

1. Submissive fantasies: these cover a wide range of fantasies, from BDSM sex play to giving up control or being emotionally or sexually obedient.

2. Dominant fantasies: as the name suggests here, the fantasy is one of being in control and being sexually assertive.

3. Exhibitionist and voyeuristic fantasies: fantasies involving watching or being watched in the act of having sex.

4. Group sex fantasies: these may have dominant, submissive or exhibitionist streaks to them but the main feature of these fantasies is the idea of multiple partners.

5. Partner fantasies: sex with a particular person, which could be a lover, a friend, a famous person or the local petrol-pump attendant.

Feminist Porn Awards

One of the big debates within feminism is whether or not porn is always degrading to women. Some say yes, some say no, and some say, that like most things in life, “it depends.”

Since 2006 the landmark Toronto sex store, Good For Her, has been running the Feminist Porn Awards. The idea behind the awards was to give kudos to erotic films, documentaries and websites that challenge stereotypical depictions of sexuality, whether this be female or male sexuality. The awards also highlight films that depict marginalised sexualities in a positive light.

In order to be considered for an award, a female director, producer or writer has to have been involved OR the film must depict female pleasure in a realistic and believable way OR it has to challenge the sexual stereotypes and boundaries common in mainstream and commercial porn.

The 2012 nominees has been released and includes straight sex, gay sex and educational videos such as Tristan Taormino’s Expert Guide to Advanced Anal Sex.

Teenage kicks

Tristan Taormino’s ChemistrySex in the Sexton household has become somewhat impossible of late. My lovely boyfriend had an accident a few weeks ago and has cracked all the ribs on the left side of his body. Poor boy. This makes sex basically impossible – he can barely walk upright – so all we can do is mess around with each other. This involves getting him into a comfy position and moving myself around so he can use his fingers and tongue. He feels bad about not been able to shag me, so the silver lining in this sorry tale is that he’s happy to play with me for hours. Mmmm…. very nice. I feel just like a teenager again – hours of foreplay because you can’t ‘go all the way.’Still, I wish he was back in full fighting form. I have this new book with 365 different positions and tricks to try. Some of the information is a bit basic (good for beginners, I suppose) and the illustrations could be more graphic (guaranteed not to offend the sensitive) but there are still a lot of good ideas in there. It’s called Daily Sex: 365 Positions and Activities for a Year of Great Sex by Jane Seddon.Somebody asked me an interesting question the other night – what should they do about their partner who is obsessed with porn? So much so, that he preferred to watch other people get off than have sex with his girlfriend. Hmmm… definitely a sacking offence I think.As regular readers of Hot Press will know I am pro porn, particularly if the adult movie in question has women viewers in mind, so that I can enjoy it too! Stats vary (as usual) but the general consensus seems to be that around 40% of women use porn on a regular basis, and women’s porn is becoming ever more popular. Girls who are keen, but want to separate the wheat from the chaff should check out Babeland’s Women’s Guide to Porn, which can be found at babeland.com America is a strange and wonderful place and they sure have some weird laws about sex. Here are some of my favourites:In Wyoming, couples may not have sex while standing inside a store’s walk-in meat freezer. I wonder which hapless couple did this to necessitate a law?In Kentucky there is a law that states, “No female shall appear in a bathing suit on any highway within this state unless she be escorted by at least two officers or unless she be armed with a club.”And weirdest of all – in California, anyone having intercourse with Satan must use a condom. So it’s okay to have congress with the devil as long as you don’t have his babies crazy stuff!If you are in the Cork area, catch me on Victor Barry’s Show, Cork Talks Back, every Thursday night from 11:15. I’ll be answering questions about anything and everything to do with sex.