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JULIEN BLANC ISN’T A PICK UP ARTIST — HE’S A PREDATOR

Julien Blanc, a so-called “pick up artist” has had his Australian tour cut short and his visa revoked. Protests have dodged Blanc’s tour and many venues had already cancelled their bookings. Australia’s immigration minister Scott Morrison waded in and cancelled the visa calling Blanc’s schtick “abuse” and “derogatory to women.” It is.

I don’t have an issue with “game” as a general rule. There is nothing wrong with wanting to be better at meeting women or trying to make yourself more attractive to the opposite sex. Not everyone is naturally socially confident or drop-dead gorgeous, but there are things you can learn that go a long way to help. I was a shy, awkward teenager but I learnt to fake confidence — and eventually got confident — because I wanted to meet boys.

Some of the advice, such as that given in Neil Strauss’ best-selling book, The Game, is pretty sensible and not that different from the tricks I used myself. These include paying attention to your grooming; having something interesting to say, even if you need to prepare it beforehand; finding out where interesting parties or events are happening; not worrying too much about rejection and accepting it graciously; and generally being the kind of person other people — men and women — want to spend time with. Strauss also advices not starting with a sexual come on, but rather making friends with everyone in the group, and building rapport with them and the person you fancy, before escalating to the next level. Not exactly revelatory stuff — it’s the kind of advice your mom would give you — and it is hard to monetise that.

As with many things in life, money causes the problems. After the success of Strauss’ book, the PUA scene exploded and people realised there was money to be made. Men pay hundreds, sometimes, thousands of dollars to attend seminars or bootcamps with well-known PUA coaches. But it is a crowded field, and each PUA coach has got to have a unique approach to distinguish himself from the herd. Some of the advice is straight-up ridiculous; some of it is close to advocating rape.

Blanc works for a company called Real Social Dynamics. RSD grew out of Project Hollywood, the house Strauss shared with his PUA coach Mystery. RSD is a company. Like most companies, it is dedicated to making a profit. But since the advice dispensed by the original PUAs like Mystery and Strauss is widely available in cheap paperbacks or on the net, nobody is going to pay for it.

Julien Blanc’s PUA advice is to grab a woman and force her head towards your crotch. Until recent days he was tweeting using the hashtag #ChokingGirlsAroundtheWorld. That’s not “game” — that’s sexual harassment. Grabbing someone and not letting go is assault. Some of his defenders argue that Blanc spent time talking to the women before doing this. That doesn’t make it better — it’s still sexual harassment.

Blanc is a racist, sexual predator who advices men that, “In Tokyo, if you’re a white male you can do what you want.” Here’s a clip of his seminars. At the end you’ll get to see Blanc in action. None of the women look pleased. Their body language says it all — pushing away or hunched up as small as possible to minimise physical contact with him.

When women complain about “rape culture” this is the kind of thing we mean — normalising sexual harassment and aggression as pick up techniques. Where Strauss advices being charming, Blanc suggests assault. There’s a world of difference there.

ESCAPE THE FRIEND ZONE — WEAR AN UGLY JACKET!

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Good news guys! You can escape the dreaded friend zone. All you’ll need is a shockingly hideous bomber jacket, fancy ass shaving equipment and some fripperies. Oh yeah, and around €4500 to drop on this stuff.

This advice is brought to you by Esquire magazine’s fashion blog, and obviously it shouldn’t be taken too seriously as a guide to being successful with the ladeez. However, the underlying messages play into a number of exasperating stereotypes about men, women and sexual attraction. So yup, I’m going to ignore my own damn advice and take it seriously.

First off, a minor quibble. The article plays into the tired old trope that all women love fashion, therefore all it takes to woo us is a streamlined shirt and some nice shoes. Sure, being nicely dressed is probably a good idea if you’re on the hunt for sex or love, but even the most directional lambswool sweater is not a substitute for chemistry and attraction. Nor will dropping a whooping $485 on a classic shaving kit cause any woman to “recalibrate your standing in her life”, except perhaps to wonder why you throw money around like confetti at a wedding.

Which brings me to my second point… Most of your must-have items to escape the friend zone come with a hefty price tag. The bomber jacket costs an eye watering $3,495. The jeans aren’t exactly cheap at $210, and the sunglasses cost $575, despite looking like something you could pick up for a fiver in Penny’s. The unspoken message here is not just that women like fashion, but expensive fashion. Yup, flash some status symbols around and your lady friend will want to bed you, because at heart, all women are shallow, gold-diggers.

For years, magazines have been selling the same bullshit fairytale to women. Buy this dress, wear these shoes! Voila! You’re Cinderella! It doesn’t work for women either. The average dude won’t fall in love with you because you’re rocking designer gear. Neither will the average lady.

Finally, there is no such thing as the “friend zone” — there’s just friends. The friend zone seems like a gender-neutral term, describing a situation where one person secretly hankers after a romantic or sexual relationship with a man or woman who doesn’t feel the same way. However, the term is often used to suggest that “friend zoning” is something capricious, selfish women do to so-called nice guys — manipulating their feelings, using them for emotional support and keeping them dangling.

You know what, I’m not going to argue that these women don’t exist. I am sure they do. But if that’s the case, why the hell are you even friends? If a friend is prepared to play with your feelings, why would you want them to be your lover or partner? That person is an asshat! Boning won’t make them a better person, especially since the emotional stakes are higher. You can do better, even without a $350 denim shirt!

Wanting someone who doesn’t feel the same way about you is a shitty situation. I’ve been there, and so have many of you. Sometimes a friend might have a change of heart and see you in a new light, but mostly they won’t. But that’s not the friend zone, that’s just plain old unrequited love.

The annoying thing about the friend zone concept is that it suggests that men and women can’t be friends without sexual attraction getting in the way. They can. Sure, some times it is an issue, but the more friends you have of the opposite sex (or whatever sex you are attracted to), the less of a problem it becomes. It also suggests that a woman’s friendship has no value — that if you can’t fuck her, hanging out, going for drinks or to the movies is a big waste of time. If that’s the way you feel, then the asshat is you — and that’s why nobody wants you. Your clothes are irrelevant.

Hackergate: Is it a sex crime?

Jennifer Lawrence recently spoke out about celebrity hackergate. In an interview with Vanity Fair, the actress called the release of her private naked images a “sexual violation” and said that, “It is not a scandal. It is a sex crime.”

Lawrence makes an interesting point. On the one hand, technology has given us new ways to interact sexually with one another. Whether you send a nude image, engage in long-distance sex play over Skype or make a porn at home, we all recognise that this behaviour is sexual. Therefore, the theft and distribution of sexual images could be seen as a sexual violation. On the other hand, you could argue that seeing this as a sex crime does a disservice to victims of sexual assault. After all, Lawrence’s images – not her body – were the target.

Just after Lawrence’s interview became public, trolls defaced her Wikipedia page, replacing her picture with one of the stolen naked images. Luckily Wikipedia caught that and the page was returned to normal within 20 minutes. Someone, it seems, was not happy about being called out on their behaviour.

What do you think: is stealing, distributing and using someone’s sexual images a sexual violation or just a privacy violation?

Emma Watson threatened with nude release by 4chan MRAs

Emma Watson dared (dared!) to give a very mild speech about feminism and how rigid gender roles define both men and women at the UN recently and has been threatened by 4chan users with having nude photos released as punishment. Let’s have a look at some sample quotes from 4chan users enraged by her speech: It is real and going to happen this weekend. That feminist bitch Emma is going to show the world she is as much of a whore as any woman. she is a delicate flower and it is time for her fans to see her in full bloom, unlike your shitty cow tit attention whore there she makes stupid feminist speeches at UN, and now her nudes will be online, HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH Lovely. For comparison, let’s look at what Watson said that got the neckbeards enraged:

I was appointed six months ago and the more I have spoken about feminism the more I have realized that fighting for women’s rights has too often become synonymous with man-hating. If there is one thing I know for certain, it is that this has to stop. For the record, feminism by definition is: “The belief that men and women should have equal rights and opportunities. It is the theory of the political, economic and social equality of the sexes.”

Men—I would like to take this opportunity to extend your formal invitation. Gender equality is your issue too. We don’t often talk about men being imprisoned by gender stereotypes but I can see that that they are and that when they are free, things will change for women as a natural consequence.

It is possible it may be a hoax, but even if so, the message is clear: if you talk about gender equality you will be punished. In an interview with Hot Press, Laura Bates of the Everyday Sexism project told me of the numerous threats she had received, including violent threats targeting her wedding. For more examples see: Anita Sarkeesian, Caroline Criado-Perez, and Amanda Hess to name a few.

EDITED TO ADD: It seems the leak may have been a stunt from Rantic Marketing aimed at discrediting 4chan (or at least their users). 4chan is of course not averse to hosting hacked private nude pics, and many women who speak out about gender equality are rewarded with death and rape threats, having their address made public and other sensitive information doxxed. If this is indeed a stunt, it is easy to see why it was so believable.

Iggy Azalea ex flogging sex tape

I’m writing about the celebrity nudes hacker scandal in the next issue of HP, and hot on the heels of that, TMZ has reported that Iggy Azalea’s ex-boyfriend is shopping around a sex tape featuring her. Azalea originally denied making a sex tape, but now her legal team have hinted that it might exist, but if so, the home movie was taken “without her knowledge or consent.” If this is true, then her ex is a piece of human excrement…

Adding to the skeeviness of the entire thing, it seems it may have been taken when she was under 18. In that case, it qualifies as child porn and her ex could find himself facing charges instead of a big, fat payday.

Kickstarter Seduction Guide Apology

Kickstarter has apologised for helping to fund a highly criticised ‘seduction guide’. Kickstarter donated $25,000 to the anti-sexual violence organization RAINN as part of their apology. Ken Hoinsky’s proposed book, Above The Game, raised nearly $17,000 on Kickstarter. Excerpts of the book, published on Reddit, advise men to lie, manipulate and coerce women into sex. Critics have called the book “a guide for sexual assault.”

Ladies, your vagina is offensive!

Did you know that the vagina is offensive? Even the word itself is so offensive it can’t be used it the context of a debate on abortion.

That’s according to Republicans in Michigan.

After using the word, Lisa Brown, a Democratic state representative, has been refused leave to speak as punishment for using the word. Brown, a mother of three, concluded her speech against an anti-abortion bill by saying: “Mr Speaker, I’m flattered that you’re all so interested in my vagina, but ‘no’ means ‘no’.”

Representative Mike Callton reckons: “What she said was offensive. It was so offensive I don’t even want to say it in front of women. I would not say that in mixed company.”

You can read the full story here.

Kinda makes me want to scream it aloud. Look away now if you are of a nervous disposition…

VAGINA! VAGINA! VAGINA!

Muff March! Protest against “designer vaginas”

On Saturday, women are planning to descend on London’s Harley Street to protest against vaginal surgery. The argument is porn and popular culture teaches women to feel bad about their genitals if they don’t conform to certain aesthetic standards.

Labiaplasty is on the increase in the UK (and presumably here too). According to the British Journal of Obstetrics and Gynaecology there was an increase of 70% in operations compared with 2007 1,118 labiaplasty operations on the NHS in 2008; 669 in 2007 and 404 in 2006.

I’m all for genital grooming, but anything involving scalpels can result in loss of sensation or complications.

You can read all about it here.

Sexvertising

Irish newspapers love a press call. This generally involves a young woman of attractive proportions in a bikini standing next to a grinning bald man and the product being advertised, which could be anything from drainage pipes to cars to hamburgers. In the “using sex to sell” stakes this qualifies as cheesy, but harmless. Compared to some international advertising campaigns, the press call or indeed the Hunky Dory’s crisps ad that caused all the brouhaha, look a little quaint. Here’s sexvertising at it’s best… or worst. You decide.

The tag line here reads: “Becoming a donor is probably your only chance to get inside her.” Kinda amusing and for a good cause. I can’t see the Irish Donor Network using something similar though.

Next up, here is one from Chupa Chups. According to Freudian thinking, some of us become orally fixated because of breastfeeding. Either we didn’t get enough of it or we liked it a little too much. I reckon he’d field-day with this one.

Then there is the master of subtle advertising. Step forward Mr Tom Ford…

But nothing compares to this advert from Duncan Quinn and it’s easy to see why it is regarded as the one of the most disturbing adverts ever by feminist groups. I don’t get upset by nudity in ads, or violence on television, but I can’t help but feel that using a rape-strangulation scene to sell tailoring beggars belief. Why? What’s the point? What exactly are they trying to say here? The male model looks rather smug and pleased with himself too as if he has had a grand old time. Maybe it’s meant to be a BSDM scene, but this advert deliberately blurs the boundaries between consensual sexual activity and rape/murder and not in a good way.

Crystal Studded Bikini Wax: Yay or Nah?

Men of Ireland, I want your opinion!

Vajazzling is the trend for adding rhinestones, crystals or other blinging adornments to one’s Hollywood wax. What I want to know is, is this a good idea? More specifically, would this entice you to or put you off going down on your partner? Hair in the teeth is one thing…

Here’s an article to give you the idea.