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March 2012
The Archives
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03.23.12This issue’s sex tip: Playing to your strengthsIan Kerner, a famous New York sex therapist and author of the classic sex guide She Comes First believes that, in sex as in life, we’re better off if we play to our strengths. Playing to your strengths means accepting that there are just some things that we cannot change about our sexual abilities or bodies and working around them. Kerner himself claims to have suffered from premature ejaculation for many years and thus learned to compensate for this with oral sex. Playing to your strengths means finding clever ways around your limitations, whether it is by using alternative techniques, positions ...
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03.23.12BOOKS: The Smart Girl’s Guide to the G-Spot by Violet BlueIf anyone can help you track down the elusive G-spot it is probably sex educator and author Violet Blue. The new edition of The Smart Girl's Guide to the G-Spot updates Blue’s classic book on the subject. As well as being the definitive guide to the much debated, controversial G-Spot, this book offers a wealth of information. There’s a guide to the body, suggestions for play and sex positions, advice on sex toys, and safer sex information as well. Ms Blue has also included a list of further reading for sexual swats, recommended videos and DVDs and practical information on ...
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03.23.12Seeing redIt is a myth that red angers bulls, but it appears it does attract men. A study has found that if a woman is wearing red, men are more likely to think she’s interested in a little something something. What’s more, it doesn’t have to be a slinky number – even a red t-shirt should do the trick. Apparently men interpret a red outfit as signalling an interest in sex, but this can be a double-edged sword for women who may be unintentionally sending out come hither signals and attracting unwanted attention.
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03.23.12Anyone for skitching?Sexting is like, so 2009. Skitching is where it’s at and is allegedly the brainchild of comedian and actress Olivia Munn. Skitch is a basic photo-editing app for phones and computers and skitching is sexting with instructions – superimposing text and arrows on a photo explaining what you want done to which body part. Well, they do say communication is important for happy sex…
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03.23.12Moan, moan, moanWhy do women moan during sex? Is it because it is expected or is there something more at work? Two British boffins decided to find out if moaning – or copulatory vocalization as they put it – had some purpose. The researchers found that many women made noise during sex, but not necessarily while they were having an orgasm. Two thirds said that they moaned to hurry along their partner’s climax, and 87 percent did so to boost a partner’s self-esteem. Some women moaned to relieve boredom, fatigue or pain and discomfort during sex. Oh dear!
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03.23.12Sex ed does not encourage sexHalf the reason certain parents object to sex education in school is a fear that this will encourage their little darlings to start shagging like rabbits. Anyone who has had sex education will know that this is patent nonsense and now a study published in the Journal of Adolescent Health has confirmed that sex ed actually delays sex – but so does abstinence instruction. Laura Duberstein Lindberg and Isaac Maddow-Zimet of the Guttmacher Institute in New York found that young adults who had received instruction on both abstinence and birth control tended to be older when they first had sex ...
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03.22.12Feminist Porn AwardsOne of the big debates within feminism is whether or not porn is always degrading to women. Some say yes, some say no, and some say, that like most things in life, "it depends." Since 2006 the landmark Toronto sex store, Good For Her, has been running the Feminist Porn Awards. The idea behind the awards was to give kudos to erotic films, documentaries and websites that challenge stereotypical depictions of sexuality, whether this be female or male sexuality. The awards also highlight films that depict marginalised sexualities in a positive light. In order to be considered for an award, a female ...
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03.16.12WOMEN MAKE MEN STUPID. REALLY?That's according to research from the Netherlands where scientists claim they have evidence showing that even planning on talking to a woman negatively affects a man's ability to think. The whole thing seems pretty insulting to men, as if the presence of a woman turned them into slavering beasts. It also seems a bit ridiculous. After all, men spend their days surrounded by women – working with women, studying at the same colleges, catching buses, trains or sharing the same road space, queuing in banks or coffee shops etc etc. None of these are segregated spaces, which if this study was ...
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03.13.12Ever wondered where words like slut and playboy come from?I did. And the Oxford English Dictionary provided the answer. Recently I wrote a post for the Oxford Dictionaries Blog about sexist language to tie in with International Women's Day. One of the things I was curious about was why terms for sexually promiscuous men and women are so different. Being labelled a "slut" is negative, while being called a "playa" just doesn't carry the same judgement. Anyway, I decided to research these words and find out their etymology. The OED tracks a word's meaning and usage by finding examples of it in print. Slut is of doubtful origin. The earliest reference ...
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03.13.12To Beard or Not to Beard?Oh oh! Apparently women don't like beards – that's according to a scientific survey. The boffins tell us that beards make men seem older and more aggressive. Hmmm... I had my doubts about this one. Lots of my lady friends rate beards, as do I. Not full-on soup catchers of course, but a neatly trimmed beard or goatee is always a delight. A look at the actual study itself shows that the sample of women surveyed were from Samoa and New Zealand, which means the results are culturally specific. I was wondering what y'all think: beards – yah or nay?