I was “talking to Joe” this morning, who wanted to know my opinion on older women and younger men. That one’s easy: if both people are adults and consenting, then there is no problem.
However, the whole Iris Robinson scandal seems to me to be a bit more complicated than a case of age difference. In her dealings with Kirk McCambley, the idea of consent seems a little murky.
Firstly, she was supposed to be acting as a sort of mother-figure for him after his father died.
Secondly, when we suffer the death of a loved one, sex is something we turn too almost inevitably because it is life-affirming. It is possible that she may have taken advantage of that.
Thirdly, she used her influence to secure him a loan and a premises. This smacks of “buying” him and it’s possible he was worried that she would block his career if he didn’t have sex with her.
It was revealed earlier today that Kirk pretended to have testicular cancer to end the relationship. If you have to fake a life-threatening illness to end a sexual relationship, its because you feel powerless in relation to your partner or fear they will retaliate in some way. Dodgy…
This could be my own personal prejudice since I dislike la Robinson for a number of reasons: she’s an unrepentant homophobe; a hypocrite; has used her public position for personal gain; and is a bible-basher (I don’t mind religious people at all, only those who scream fire and brimstone at those who don’t share their faith).
Whaddya think? Does this strike you as a consenting sexual relationship or just a wee bit suspect?
Couple things. There absolutely nothing wrong with a woman no matter what age having sexual relations with a man much, much younger than her as long as the man is of age of consent. Women have expressed that such a scenario is the most thrilling possible and cosistenty acheive the maximum possible climax they have ever acheived in their lives. Conversely, younger men express the same results however are possibly stained or possibly literally applied by the experience because they have many sexual years left in their lives, but as they get older the women can only get younger in terms of age gaps. I know of a man that was 14 at the time (some can say he was a child) with a very attractive woman in her early fifties. I know both parties. They are both 10 years older today and both say they have never had it better since which is a shame for him since he has many years left in life but feels any other potential opportunities are frivolous. You see, people want to experience maximum orgasm, in fact they yearn for it from time to time, some more often than others.
Everything I have read of your opinion, I have said myself, I cannot for one see any other reasons for such happenings. Taking a step back from my own Bias, on a simple level I see a manipulative person taking advantage for their own gain.
Usually anyone who has the brass balls to publicly remonstrate people and rule on behalf of their morality is not doing it for the good of society, I fear there is always something that is hidden from view and those receiving such criticism.
I usually don’t get angry about such issues from politicians because sadly its what I’ve come to expect, that is, the swindling of finance and hypocrisy, but it angers me even more when that individual cannot see what how they are correctly perceived by the wider public. The audacity of that manipulative person to believe they can break the law, and push their own moral rules until it suits them. Noone should be able to be in such a position. It just shows that a lot of politicians in the North have too much power and are not qualified to be in that position. It again is another reason why voters up in the North should open their eyes and see who is actually running their government, put in place by listening to scaremongering and the most hideous of political tactics. That woman may have done us a favour by showing everyone her true despicable colours.
@Damon: I agree that there’s nothing wrong with the whole older woman/younger man thing as long as they are both of age and consent. I just wonder how much genuine consent there was in this case…
@David: Yeah, it does kind of seem that there is a level of manipulation here. If it was a 60 year old man and a 19 year old girl who had just lost her father, that’s exactly what a lot of people would assume.
But I do find it hard to separate the issue from my feelings about Iris Robinson, who is an absolutely horrible, nasty, venomous, right-wing, gay-bashing hypocrite…
As do I, I can also agree with Damon who is right about the consenting adults, but in her position it certainly doesn’t strike me as that, she had known the young fellow since he was nine years of age, and if rumours are to be believed she didn’t stop at just one affair, not even two, that doesn’t sound like the right ingredients for a solid relationship between two adults. It stirkes me as a young man taken in by an older woman who seems to be solely out for her own gratification.
The fact that Kirk McCambley feigned testicular cancer to end the relationship is worrying. You may lie to a lover to let them down gently, but you wouldn’t pretend to have cancer unless you thought he/she would go mental because you no longer wished to continue the relationship. Does suggest he was scared of her. And if you are scared of someone, that’s not a consenting sexual relationship.
at this stage it does like Iris is at least a little unbalanced and if you’re a young 19-20 year old it wouldn’t be that hard to start worrying about your bunny being boiled.
Exactly!