Most women don’t climax every time they have sex, but there are a few things you can do to help your body along. Here are some ideas.

Masturbate regularly
Sex experts believe that orgasm is a learned response. Do it enough times, and the orgasm response is stored in the long-term memory making it easier to come whenever you have sex. In addition, women who masturbate frequently experience increased sexual desire and greater sexual satisfaction.

Almost all women need clitoral stimulation to come, so this is a good place to start. Use your fingers, try sex toys and clitoral stimulators, lubricants and orgasm gels on your own. Explore fantasies, erotic fiction and pornography.

Get the angle right
Experts say that ideally a woman’s pelvis should be tilted at 26 degrees to optimise the chance of her reaching orgasm. Apparently this maximises contact between the penis and the most sensitive parts of a woman’s anatomy.

Here’s an easy way to get close to the ideal angle. The man sits on the bed with his feet under his bum. With a leg placed on either side of her partner (or over each shoulder), the woman lies on her back and arches up to meet him. He should support her back with his hands. This position is good for G-spot stimulation and can be used whether you’re having vaginal or anal sex (or using a strap-on).

Tilting the pelvis is generally a good idea when you’re having sex and can be used to improve many positions. For example, holding a woman’s back or arse during the missionary or using a cushion under her to tilt the pelvis makes this somewhat dull position a whole lot more satisfying. A smart woman should spend some quality time with a sex toy and figure out the angle herself beforehand. This will make it easier achieving the correct angle with the aid of a pillow. Alternatively, you could invest in one of the many shaped wedges that are made to improve sex. Wedges such as those by Loving Angles or Liberator Shapes help you achieve a number of angles and the correct amount of pelvic tilt with no effort at all.

The CAT
The man needs to slide two to four inches forward from the missionary position, so that his body falls flat against his partners and the base of his penis is rubbing against her clitoris. Her legs should be straight out and touching his. While she pushes her pelvis upward, he should push down gently. Aim for an up-and-down movement.

Other ideas
Research has shown that women who get stuck just before coming can reach orgasm by tensing her legs, arms, stomach or feet.

Your diet can greatly affect your sexual responses. Healthy food, plenty of vegetables and enough water means your sex drive is working at its peak. The fish oils in coldwater fish such as salmon and halibut may promote a healthy sex life and help improve blood circulation in the genitals or influence the part of the brain that responds to sexual pleasure. It has been claimed that bananas, honey and flaxseeds all increase testosterone production, which is important in both men and women for a healthy sex drive.

Herbal aphrodisiacs work like vitamins designed to increase your sexual responses. They take around 6 weeks to make a difference.

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