Ah yes, another year and yet another story about a college girl auctioning off her virginity to pay for university. The latest one is a Kiwi known only as Unigirl who accepted an offer of over NZD45,000 (around 22,000 euro) for hers, which is a paltry sum compared to Natalie Dylan, an American who picked up a cool USD3.8 million for hers.

The whole cash for hymen thing makes me feel a little queasy. Prostitution, it is said, is the oldest profession, and there are plenty of women who swap sex for financial gain in relationships or marriage. But I thought feminism was supposed to free women from this - firstly by allowing us to go to college and have careers and by stressing the importance of female pleasure in sex. Selling your virginity seems a step backwards to a murkier period when the only commodity of value a woman had was her body and where female virginity was prized.

What’s more, you never forget your first sexual experience. While mine may not have been ‘perfect’ in any way, shape or form, at least I can look back on it and smile. Natalie Dylan and Unigirl, well, I very much doubt they’ll be able to do that. And I can’t help but wonder (getting all Carrie Bradshaw here) how the fact that their first sexual experience was a commercial transaction will affect their ability to enjoy sex and to connect with another person on an intimate level.

Or perhaps I’m just jealous! Hmmm… I wonder if I missed a trick (no pun intended) back when I was at university. When I wasn’t at class, I slaved away in a crappy office, little realising I was sitting, quite literally, on a goldmine. Oh well…

…wondering why it is that the more sex you have, the more sex you want…

Oh how I laughed when I read this… Bossy is an Aussie agony aunt (alliteration!) who tells it like it is. Here she answers a man who can’t understand why his new girlfriend is not keen on using his ex’s sex toys, despite the fact that he washed them! Read the full story here. The comments are pretty funny.

Yeuch! There is no way in hell I’d ever use another woman’s vibrator. It’d be like wearing a stranger’s underwear, but worse…

Sharing sex toys is not a good idea in general. Even if you clean them, you can spread STIs that way. If you do, you have to use a condom over the toy. Even still I’d be a bit iffy about it…

Back from when the Chili Peppers were really good… The rest of the album is pretty damn sexy too.

(There isn’t much a video here unfortunately as this was not a single. The live version is pretty rotten, because as much as I used to love RHCP, Anthony Kiedis’ can’t actually sing.)

Being both on the giving and receiving ends, gay girls know quite a bit about the art of cunnilingus. Here’s what they advise:
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The Earth Angel, the Irish company that made the world’s first totally green vibrator have released their newest toy, the Dark Angel.

The Dark Angel is also an environmentally sound vibe, but even better, the company has decided that for every unit sold through its website, it will to donate 10 euros to the Irish Red Cross for relief in Haiti.

See The Earth Angel for more details.

Not exactly doing the sisterhood any favours but MeShell Ndegeocello rocks it with this superfunky tune about “man-theft”…

I love the web comic A Softer World. For those of you who don’t know it, I thought I’d share some of Joey Comeau’s thoughts on sex, which are funny and astute. Check out the archive here A Softer World

Sex and food is a winning combination as far as I’m concerned. But things are a little more complicated than whether you prefer to eat sushi, chocolate or ice cream off your lover.

The animal rights organisation, Peta, will tell you that vegetarians make better lovers because they have a healthier diet. It’s claimed that vegetarians have more energy, smell better and that veggie blokes are less likely to suffer from erectile dysfunction because they don’t have all that horrible animal fat clogging up their arteries.

Vegetarians can be quite evangelical about food, but they are nothing compared to vegans. Vegans are hardcore. Not only do they not eat any animal products, they don’t wear leather, wool or silk. They can’t wear shoes that have been made using glue derived from animal products. They will only drink certain brands of wine, whiskey and beer. They even have to buy special vegan condoms.

I know all this because I dated a vegan for a while last year. He spent a lot of time trying to change my eating habits (I eat fish, but not meat) and making me watch educational documentaries, but our dietary habits were not really an issue. Mostly because I only ate vegan meals when I was with him. Not because I had to, it was just easier (and because I had a sneaking suspicion that he wouldn’t touch me if I’d been hoovering up cheese…). But I figured that sooner or later he’d give me an ultimatum: “It’s me or the fish. One of us will have to go!”

Anyway, although I don’t eat meat, I don’t mind being around people who do and am happy to have sex with carnivores. And to be honest I can’t say I’ve noticed any difference in the sexual abilities of meat-eaters and vegetarians. But I was wondering if other people feel that diet is a consideration when it comes to choosing a sexual partner.

If you are a vegetarian, is it unethical to have sex with a carnivore?
If you love meat, are vegetarians just a pain in the ass to be around?

Whaddya think?